This conversation seemed very “un-Millennial”–as a whole, our generation is marrying later, becoming more secular, and embracing different cultures more than any of our predecessors.If the same question had been asked about any other aspect of our shared identities–being white, being educated, coming from middle or upper-middle class backgrounds—it would have seemed impolite, if not offensive.ack in the day, when it was time for our bubbes and zaydes to find their sig-o, their parents took them to a matchmaker to find the perfect husband. There are a lot of new players in the online dating field, and it can be overwhelming. You can find your , or intended, with a little help from an algorithm, a cute pic and a few choice phrases.C., past trips to Israel, and guilt over skipping religious services earlier that day.And then the conversation turned to dating.“Would you ever marry a non-Jew? Answers varied; one person said she wasn’t sure, while another said she might consider marrying someone who was willing to convert.After speaking with them both, I’m not hopeful this relationship can be saved.
Add in some specifics, such as a desire to find someone who shares your Jewish background, and hard can become very tricky.
It works by connecting your profile through Facebook without posting on your wall, the name, age and “tribe” of each match is listed along with a couple photos, and you can search matches by distance from your location to swipe left or right when you find a certain someone you think might be riding the same wavelength.
JDate (.99/month, .99/month for six months) At almost for one month on this site’s basic plan, JDate is by and far the most expensive dating service for Jewish singles on the market. Like many other dating sites, JDate asks you for your name and location when registering, but also asks questions about your smoking preferences, physical characteristics, profession and “Jewish-ness.” The site itself isn’t super sleek looking, but it’s easy to use and offers the largest selection of matches out of the websites we reviewed.
Debates about intermarriage, or marriage outside of the faith, are common in the Jewish community, but her question still struck me as remarkable.
Here were four twentysomething women who hardly knew each other, already talking about the eventuality of marriage and apparently radical possibility that we would ever commit our lives to someone unlike us.